I’ve been following Roxanne for less than a year but she’s one of those people who I wish I had known sooner. She has so much wisdom.  I came across her Instagram page during the hardest time in my life. Then I heard she had a book and read that. Then the podcast. Wow. It’s one of the very few podcasts that I look forward to listening to on the release day. I cannot stress enough that SO MUCH of what she talked about I had felt and lived in my own life. Then I had the opportunity to speak with her 1-on-1 and jumped at the chance. All I can say is, she gets it. She truly had understanding for the mental, emotional and physical roller coaster I had been on. I am fortunate to have a good support system in my life but not everyone understands what my life has really been like. Roxanne does. What has really drawn me to her is how real she gets with her followers. She’s honest about what she went through and in a world where we’re told to -be quiet, don’t rock the boat, keep it to yourself and don’t be dramatic, she tells you it’s okay to tell your story! I believe she helps people find their voice and for that I’m grateful to her!

I had a friend who heard about you, and also about your book. This friend knew that I had gone through a very difficult divorce and that there was addiction and trauma involved. She said that this was something that may help me and to reach out to you on face book. That is exactly what I did and I have enjoyed your posts so much!

I have listened to every one of your podcasts since the beginning! I like to listen to them more than one time because I know that there is much to remember or maybe that I need to hear again. I really loved the episode about removing our blinders to see our grief so we can heal. Knowing that we have to go through our own grief and how we can start working on healing our grief through learning others perspectives and honesty.  If we can Listen and ask questions, even if we are afraid and have to put our toes in the water. This was so good for me to hear and such a great perspective.

I have definitely been working on becoming more in tune with Heavenly Father as I have listened to you speak about your journey. You have included Him in every aspect in your healing journey even when your heart was so broken it felt like you could die. I also have felt that excruciating heart break, and I was so glad to hear that I was not alone in feeling that way. I know if I take the time to seek Him first your message will be even clearer for me. Clarity has come through your podcast in so many ways. It has started in knowing that I am not alone, and that by just pushing play I have started to choose in to finding out how to heal from addiction and the trauma that comes with it. I am grateful for the inspiring messages that you share so bravely, and honestly every week. Thank you!!

I would whole heartedly recommend your book and your podcasts to anyone that needs to understand how to heal from pain. We all will have some kind of pain in our lives but, your story will help others to know that it is possible to have healing and recovery. I believe that even if someone is not going through some kind of addiction or trauma they will know someone in their lifetime that will. These messages that you share bring hope and strength. For me it has brought about understanding that I am not alone, that I can heal and I can live a life of happiness! I appreciate you so much!! YOU are inspiring!

I was going through a very difficult time during my healing journey and trying to save my marriage.  It was a few short weeks after the one-year anniversary of D-Day #3 (D-Day #3 was VERY difficult for me), along with the uncertainty of COVID-19, changes in life and restrictions on family get-togethers. Life was/is tough!  I had been praying mightily hard for help and talked with my bishop on April 21st as I desperately needed spiritual guidance.   Early in the morning of April 22nd I saw your post on the Facebook Worldwide Fast page and messaged you.  I knew in an instant Heavenly Father sent you to me to help me through the next steps of my journey.

I’ve been listening to your podcasts and I can relate to so much of what you’ve experienced.

You’ve reiterated much of what my counselor has told me and you’ve given me examples to use and follow on my healing journey.

I’ve shared how you’ve helped me and the link to your podcast with my counselor and she has passed it on to other women who may benefit. I also shared with my husband last night how you and your podcasts have helped.

I was first introduced to Roxanne after discovering her book, Cutting Ties. It helped me immensely through the early months of discovery, disclosure, and overwhelming trauma. Just knowing that someone else out there had experienced the same things as I was experiencing and had come out on the other side happy, healthy and sane was so encouraging and hopeful for me. I began following her on Instagram and am always uplifted and strengthened each time I scroll across a post of advice, encouragement or both. I found out about her podcast from her Instagram account and was thrilled for more of what Roxanne was sharing with the betrayal trauma community, which is, unfortunately, very large. She has fearlessly fed the starving masses of women, like me, going through this very real and devastating trauma who are so hungry for guidance, advice, and wisdom from someone who has climbed the rocky path of recovery from a spouse's betrayal. I'm forever grateful to her and her bravery for speaking out about the diseases of pornography and sex addiction, that have sadly been hidden in the dark where they fester and flourish, unlike other addictions, like alcoholism and drug addiction, that are talked about and addressed in public. Roxanne has courageously dragged them out into the light where she talks frankly about the struggles of living with an addicted spouse, learning about and setting boundaries for your safety, and finding/regaining your voice, strength, and power. She is a thousand-watt lightbulb in the fight against the darkness of pornography and sex addiction. Through email, I have had the pleasure of receiving personal advice and help from Roxanne as I've struggled to know how to help my kids through this trauma that is now a part of our lives. I would recommend to anyone struggling with questions or needing advice to reach out to her. She successfully walks the walk, therefore, I would without hesitation trust her to talk the talk.

I came across a recommendation for Roxanne’s book “cutting ties” on social media, and was instantly drawn to the clever title and I’m so glad, as I was about 6 years in to my own traumatic abusive situation, finally realizing exactly what I was dealing with and that I needed to save my life by getting out. I started following her on Instagram and immediately connected with her through her posts. Soon I found myself messaging her back and forth from time to time about different problems I was having as I was trying to make a plan and taking steps to leave my marriage. (I was also seeing a counselor and getting help from a local abuse safe house) But Roxanne’s experiences just adds to my tools. I have been religiously listening to her podcast. They are always so positive, encouraging and informative and though our journeys are different, and I am not dealing with an addict, I am dealing with a physical, mental and emotional abuser. Abuse is abuse and it all requires healing. Her topics are exactly spot on with what I have been struggling with. I appreciate her detailed thought process in portraying abuse, betrayal and trauma and then later healing and the tools she shares that have helped her on her journey. I love her faithfulness and how dedicated she is in being led by god in every step of her life and especially to help women like me. She has been lead to me from my Heavenly Father as I have prayed and begged him to free me from my situation. I continue to listen and definitely recommend her book and podcast to anyone who needs to heal from ANY all too common abusive situations.This journey is extremely hard. It is key to know we’re not alone!

I’ve known Roxanne for some time on a personal level and have always been impressed with her optimistic outlook. I started listening to her Podcast out of curiosity and found I had listened to seven episodes without noticing how much time had passed. I was drawn in by her story. What she was describing brought back emotions I thought I had buried deep enough to keep from ever resurfacing. But more importantly, I was inspired by her relationship with Heavenly Father. And the way she had to learn to TRUST Him at a level she probably never imagined might be required. After hearing her story, I reached out to Roxanne for help in processing all these thoughts and emotions that had surfaced after decades of lying dormant in some remote cavern of my mind. And this was the right thing to do. She saw clearly through to the heart of the matter and gently pointed me in a direction I may not have found on my own—a path toward real healing.  And her counsel left me feeling lighter and more optimistic about the future than I’ve felt in quite some time. Roxanne’s passion for teaching others how to navigate the maze of emotions associated with trauma and betrayal is evidence of the depth of heartache she herself endured. But her purpose clearly revealed itself as she emerged from the refiner’s fire. I feel blessed to have been led to her at a time when my spirit was ready to receive her wisdom and understanding.

I am so grateful I found Roxanne and her tools at a critical point in my life. I had been separated from my husband for a couple of months because of his sex addiction behaviors and lies escalating. During this time in my life I was needing to make some difficult and life changing decisions. Do I stay and continue the unhealthy marriage I was in with someone not willing to change or do I leave and do something I never wanted to be a part of my life; divorce? I reached out to a good friend about my situation. She told me about Roxanne's book "Cutting Ties" and her podcast "Choose In". I immediately found these resources and accessed them. I have been blessed ever since!! Something I have learned from working with Roxanne as well as listening to her podcast is that she is all about learning to see the truth of her reality. I have struggled with seeing the truth of my reality and she has really opened my eyes to the healing that comes when I live in the truth of my reality instead of denial or fantasy.

I felt clarity and farther along in seeing my reality after we talked. My reality was painful to accept, but I knew it was the beginning of making healthy needed decisions given my circumstances of my husband blatantly not choosing us or recovery. I gained a lot of insight and tools from our conversation. Huge insights were remembering I was not alone and I can make good decisions for myself. I would and have recommended friends and family to listen to your podcast! I would also recommend them to work with you if I felt they needed your services. Roxanne, you are truly a light in the darkness. A friend when all hope seems gone and you help guide those that are struggling to see the truth about the reality of their situation in a way no other person ever could. Your experience has been for a reason and I am eternally grateful that I came across your book and podcast. I hope to continue following you and gaining insight about the truth of my reality by accessing your honest, real, and vulnerable tools. Thank you for all that you are doing!!!

When Roxanne called me, I was on the brink of leaving my husband due to his on and off affair with porn Throughout our 17 1/2 Years of marriage. I was dealing with betrayal trauma and C-PTSD as a result from the Several years of feeling heartbreak and pain whenever I discovered he had slipped. I was just so fed up. He wasn’t doing anything besides white knuckling his addiction as long as he could, till he would cave in and slip up again. And that cycle would Just keep repeating over again. I had come to know of Roxanne’s story through her book, Cutting Ties, about 9 months previously, when my Bishop dropped off her book to me. He told me he found the book while clearing out the left overs from a move he had been helping with, and felt it might be helpful for me.  The family that he had been helping with moving, happened to be Roxanne’s Brother’s family. I dove in and started reading it right away. I started to cry while reading the first chapter, and then found myself in tears as I read more Chapters. I finally felt validated!  all the feelings and emotions I had been experiencing over the years were finally being Validated. I wasn’t crazy after all! I learned several things from reading her book. I learned that I needed to really lean into the Lord. I wasn’t doing it enough. I also learned that there are steps I needed to take, boundaries I needed to implement, to help me find emotional safety while continuing to be in this marriage of mine. I also Needed to dig deeper into my own healing.

I came across her Facebook page 6 months ago. And started following it. Then I learned she had an Instagram account and followed that. And that is where I found out about her Podcasts. I have been listening from the start and have loved listening to her share the knowledge she has gained from her struggle. And I continued to learn from her. You can really get a sense that she truly cares about helping others. You can sense that she really does have a strong connection to God. And she relies on him for inspiration for her podcasts.

Our phone conversation was great! She is a great listener and we connected so well, and I felt so comfortable talking to her. She helped give me strength to continue to lean on God, and continue to do my own personal healing. And to trust that God will help me know the steps I need to take, in regards to my marriage. And finding a support group of women who have been through a similar experience as me was very important for further healing, as well as meeting regularly with a therapist that specialized in trauma, PTSD and sex addiction. I would most definitely recommend her podcasts, book, and any help form her, to my friends and family and others.

I had the opportunity to talk with Roxanne recently. I had just finished reading her book, Cutting Ties, which resonated with me. I was going through a difficult time with my husband and was so grateful for her insight and thoughts about what I was experiencing. What she said made such sense to me and I was able to go in a different direction which has made all the difference. I’m grateful for pioneering women who are out there to help us light the path, as Roxanne is. I would highly recommend her book and her podcast!

A friend who was familiar with the struggles in my marriage recommended "Cutting Ties" as a helpful read.  I immediately purchased the book, read it, and purchased three more to share with close friends and family who seemed so confused by what was happening to us, this "perfect couple".   I felt every word that Roxanne wrote in her book, although I read her book while still actively trying to save the marriage, it wasn't until I was in the first months after filing for divorce that I reached out.  I knew she would understand the devastation of deciding to end a marriage that you had given your heart to saving.  Roxanne was kind, gentle, and understanding when we spoke on the phone for the first time. I knew that her words were full of empathy and much needed validation as she had walked a similar long hard path to health, happiness, and self-respect.  I jumped on the opportunity to listen to Roxanne when I learned of her podcast.  Like Roxanne, I had created a team of people to help coach me through all the painful changes.  I was already actively working on my affirmations and positive thinking when I heard Roxanne say "put What If in front of your affirmations".  I tried it and it made all the difference for me.  I later learned that when we have been conditioned negatively for so long (as you are when married to a gaslighting narcissist) the gap from your negative conditioning to the positive conditioning is to large so adding "what if" softens that gap with a possibility and creates less resistance with the subconscious mind.  Roxanne offers hard-earned wisdom and insight.  I found Roxanne just as she released her book, I have followed her on FB, and through her podcasts, as well as spoken to her on the phone several times.  I am grateful for the time she has shared with me, I always have greater hope and clarity for my next right step.  I am grateful Roxanne is willing to share her story and the lessons she has learned.  There is always a certain amount of invalidation you receive when you tell truth, something I know she lived with on a foundational level all her marriage.  I commend her courage and integrity as she offers love and support to other warrior women who are trying to navigate the fog of sexual addiction.  I highly recommend Roxanne to be a part of your healing team.

I met Roxanne right around Christmas. My sister knew Roxanne and had told me about her book. I bought it and read in a day. I walked into church that next Sunday and saw her, my heart swelled as if I had found a long lost friend but I had never met Roxanne. I felt an immediate connection to her. I walked up to her like a star struck Fan and introduced myself, tears filled my eyes as she gave me a hug. She has a beautiful spirit and a warm heart. Although our husbands addictions were different the feelings she experienced were the same as mine. I found a lot of healing in her book. Her words are raw and encouraging. I have learned so much about forgiveness and being a little more patient and kind with myself as I heal.

I look forward to her podcast each week they are just the boost of hope I need to get me through what Im struggling with. They are full of encouragement

and love and I can feel how sincere she is. One thing I have learned working with Roxanne is that even if I feel like I’ve taken 10 steps back I haven’t I’m still moving forward in the right direction. There may be some fear in the beginning but I will feel more peace and sanity later.

When I first saw Roxanne’s book, I was going through a traumatic divorce. I can’t remember if someone recommended her book to me, or if I saw it on social media, but I immediately bought it and read it in just a couple of days. I was working on healing and understanding everything that had happened to me, and how to proceed. I was completely lost.

My husband of 24 years had left me.  Although the addictions were different, the behaviors, signs, and feelings were the same and I felt as if I was reading my own book, I could relate in every way.  I didn’t want the book to end, I wanted to keep reading and keep learning.  

When I found out she was doing a podcast, I was ecstatic!! I couldn’t wait to hear more.  Her podcasts have covered everything I’m still struggling with, and I have learned so much more about addiction, boundaries, and healing.

Roxanne offered to chat me with for half hour on the phone.  I gained so much in that short amount of time and came away feeling like we were long friends.  She taught me that my husband didn’t leave ME, he left God.   She also introduced me to energy work, which further granted me life changing experiences in trying my own energy worker.  

I read Roxanne’s book September 2019, 1 year after my divorce was final.  I was so excited to learn of her podcasts and have learned even more, every week.  Every subject she talks about is a significant part to my healing journey from choosing to do my own work, finding my true self again, to fear, trauma, and boundaries.

I have recommended Roxanne’s book and podcast to people I know, and people I don’t know, that I hear may be struggling with addiction, trauma or divorce.  Her insights and experiences mirror my own, and I have learned so much about myself, my experiences, and my journey.  She is easy to talk to, easy to listen to, relatable and passionate about helping others with their journey. I would highly recommend Roxanne in any capacity you may need her.

I have been participating in a support group for women of betrayal trauma for about a year and a half. I was progressing well in my recovery journey but continued to struggle with trust and being vulnerable in relationships. I first came upon Roxanne's podcast about six months ago when she shared her story and recovery in my betrayal group. I began listening to her podcast soon after and it has become something I look forward to each week. I appreciate her openness and vulnerability in sharing her story and complicated journey of healing. I am in a religious culture where porn addiction is often kept secret and is taboo to talk about. I appreciate having someone who can relate to the difficulty of bringing this addiction to the surface and someone who can support me in this lonely place. I reached out to Roxanne shortly after hearing several of her podcasts. I was curious to know how she found the ability to trust in her current marriage after so much betrayal. I felt so much support and love in her response. (which came lightening fast, I would like to add) I have since reached out to her again and received the same loving support. I appreciate all she does for our community of trauma healing. I often share her podcast in my support group because of the valuable tools she talks about and has implemented into her own healing. Trauma is a difficult, fearful journey to recover from and Roxanne is living proof it can be done. What a valuable support to have. Each of our recovery journeys are so personal. I hope that we can find the peace and freedom from the trauma we have suffered.

I came across Roxanne Granata’s podcast while looking for sources to help me better understand and recover from my relationship with an addict. I wasn’t sure at that point whether I was going to leave or stay in the relationship. Everything Roxanne discussed in her podcast was almost identical to the experience I was living. I binge listened to several episodes per day, sometimes playing episodes twice. I was finally at my breaking point of confusion, needing someone to listen to my story and help me to gain clarity when I emailed Roxanne for an appointment. I chose to work with Roxanne because she would be able to fully understand the dynamics of these relationships. I am so glad that I chose her and I would recommend her to everyone in need. She gave me some clarity and convinced me to stop judging myself for staying longer than I knew I should have, thinking that love could save him. The thing I appreciate most about her podcast is that she shares intimate details of her story, which is what let me know that I was not alone in my experience and that she had insight that I did not yet have. I have listened to other podcasts on being in relationship with addicts. Many of them do not share intimate details for you to relate to, and they use hypothetical situations and speak in broad terms, with little substance or detail for you to relate to. None of them were working for me in my healing journey. Roxanne’s podcast is so very helpful and continues to be one of my favorites. Her truthful, detailed stories were a God send for me.