Choose In Podcast
As a survivor of betrayal, infidelity, trauma, and emotional abuse, I Chose In to doing the hard work necessary to see through the manipulation, deceit, and lies that came from being the spouse of an addict. I had to accept that this was my life. The only way to heal was to go through the pain, to see it clear, and work through it. Today, I help others find their way from feeling shattered and hopeless to strong and empowered. You are not alone. You are not the only one that is experiencing these types of things. There is absolutely healing and happiness ahead IF you do what is required to get there. I am the Author of Cutting Ties - Healing from Betrayal Trauma as the Spouse of an Addict. As you read it, you will find I don’t shy away from the real, raw, painful truth. My podcast is no different. We can only become something more if we see the truth with clear eyes and be willing to “CHOOSE IN” to doing the hard work. I’m excited to share everything I know with all of you.
- Roxanne Kennedy Granata
Learning to stand up, speak up, and promote empowered decisions, while supporting and cheering for strong women, shows your children they can do the same. If you want them rising each time they fall, standing up to mistreatment, believing in themselves when others don't, and choosing to go after their dreams, it's time to strengthen that within yourself. You are their primary example of how to be.
Taylor Swift is a prime example of rising each time you fall, getting up even when others try to push you down. She does it over and over again. Whether you like her or don't is irrelevant for this. This is about change. It's about being strong yourself, learning why you stay small and quiet in certain circumstances, and how you can start making a difference in your own life and those around you.
Learn how to determine where you need boundaries in your life, how to figure them out, what to say to your partner, how to notice the fearful parts of you when setting boundaries, and the healthy and unhealthy parts of you and your relationship. Boundaries are not about being against another person, but rather a way to bring you closer together.
Boundaries feel hard and complicated, and we get struck feeling fearful of what will happen if we set and hold them. Learning and understanding the Why's of boundaries will help alleviate the overwhelm and get you feeling excited about how they will add to and change your life for the better. Healthy relationships in all forms require healthy boundaries.
When you accommodate bad behaviors from your spouse you teach your children to do the same in their own lives. You can learn how to handle these situations which teaches your children how to live confidently with boundaries as they become adults.
Are you stuck in your head overthinking, trying to figure things out, and constantly processing decision making through these thoughts? Staying in your head will cause continuous stress and anxiety as well as creating all sorts of stories that may or may not even be true. Dropping into your emotions, sitting with the feelings you are having, and then allowing those emotions to hold hands with the thoughts in your head; you will be able to come to decisions and take action from a healthier more grounded space... the space of truth rather than decisions based on perceived threat. I show you a simple way to drop out of your head and into your emotions.
Why did the masses go crazy over the relationship between Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce? Let's look inside at what is actually going on with the overwhelming numbers following this and how we feel about it. What emotions have we felt watching these events? Tuning into your inner knowing, creating and setting boundaries, and going after your dreams is all covered in this episode. Whether you follow this story or not, this episode is for you. It's your life and your dreams that need to come to life.